1. Be Yourself, Not a Filtered Version

Authenticity builds lasting connections. From day one, if you are the same person in real life as you present yourself to be, it may not impress someone who isn’t right for you, but it will resonate deeply with someone who is. The right person will connect with your true self and seek a long-term partnership.

On the contrary, if you pretend to be someone else initially, and a conflict or misunderstanding arises later, the entire foundation can crumble. You may end up hurting each other more. Be real from the start, it's the best filter.

2. Listen More Than You Talk

People might forget the exact conversation, but they’ll always remember how you made them feel. Did you create a safe space for them to open up? Did they feel heard and comfortable in your company?

The ability to listen, not just react, shows emotional maturity. Not everything needs an immediate judgment. Sometimes, what someone says may have deeper layers or context you’re unaware of. Stay curious, not reactive.

3. Set Boundaries Early

Respect your time, energy, and values and respect theirs too. Avoid giving the impression that you’ll tolerate everything just to be accommodating. If something doesn’t sit right, speak up kindly. A simple heads-up or a metaphorical “yellow card” is better than silent resentment.

Also, be mindful: certain topics that seem casual to you may be sensitive to the other person due to past trauma. A little empathy can go a long way.

4. Keep It Light (at First!)

Don’t dive into your entire life story on the first meeting. Keep it light, fun, and engaging. Humor, shared interests, and curiosity go a long way.

Ask about what they enjoy doing in their free time, their profession, what they love or dislike about it, their passions, beliefs, and favorite shows or music. These open-ended, lighter questions help create a common vibe and make you more approachable. Save the deeper conversations for when trust has been built.

5. Red Flags Aren’t Pink

A red flag is a red flag. Sometimes someone may come off as rude or unaware ,which could be just a slip in etiquette. But if your gut consistently signals something off, don’t ignore it.

If the red flag feels non-negotiable and completely misaligned with your values, it’s okay to walk away. But remember, you're not obligated to "fix" or advise them. You’re not their coach, let their friends or mentors handle that. Be graceful, step back without burning bridges, and give space for mutual growth (if it happens at all).

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